Hello Everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s been around 20 days since I haven’t written any new article…… I am feeling very happy to write my new article. I wanted to write this article long time back but because of some reason or the other this article went on delaying...I love to share my feelings and thoughts to all my readers .In my last post “DAYS OF INNOCENCE………”, I spoke to you about my childhood days and now its time for me to write about a beautiful relationship called Friendship that values a lot in my life.

I strongly believe that Friendship is one of the most beautiful and lovely relationship existing in today’s world. It’s a very precious bonding developed between at least two people. But to be frank , if 7 years back I was ever asked a question like “Is friendship a beautiful relationship existing between two people?” My reply would be no at that very moment. Nearly 7 years back, I was a person who always thought that friendship has lost its true value….there can be no one called true friend in our life.

You all may be wondering what is this girl talking about, but that’s a fact “I always had negative view towards friendship”... After my schooling when I started studying my 11th standard I realized that I m wrong with my perspective about friendship and was happy to be wrong with my thinking. I met a very special friend in my 11th who made me feel and believe that friendship is very essential in our life. She told me the actual definition of friendship. From then on my view towards friendship changed entirely. Thanks a lot to that special friend of my life who made me to realize my mistake.

Now if I was asked the above question my answer is yes because friendship is really a valuable relation existing in the world. According to me, Friendship is all about sharing each other’s opinions, thoughts, dreams, fears, aspirations and hopes. You don’t mind to engage your all time in conversations with your friends. In Friendship we always feel happy to cherish old memories of togetherness and create new memories everyday. We love to spend our time with friends and always want to share our happy moments with them. Friendship requires a lot of mutual understanding, love, care and respect for each other.

The word which inspires me most about friendship is that “Friendship should always be like milk and water, even when we try to mix them together they remain inseparable…..that’s a stronger bond between them”. Most of us are very familiar with the famous phrase from a Doha by Kabirdas where he tells “jal bin machli”; here he tries to explain that a fish can’t survive if ever separated from water. It’s so friendly with water that it can’t live without water. So he expects everyone to have a true friendship like a fish and water. I have always been very inspired by both the above examples.

I feel bad when I see people around me who once were inseparable and together always, have spilt very badly and moved on to different ways and leading their life separately, and I cant stop myself from wondering what could’ve happened so wrong between them that they can’t even stand each other’s face? A friendship always begins with ‘no sorry no thank you’ and then later reaches the ‘best friends forever’ stage. Can it end with such a bitter note? Building up relationships is very necessary for fulfilling and leading our life happily. But every relation will have some problem. Even close friendships at times will have problems every now and then.

The reasons for a split in a friendship might be many in number. But very often people always regret their past broken friendships when they look back at the pages of their life. People tend to lose their relationships because of petty differences and misunderstandings. People lose their close relations because of their silly baseless doubts and suspicions .As Lord Buddha says “There can be nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills “. It’s very bad to lose our dear ones due to pointless doubts and misunderstandings. It mainly happens due to lack of trust and miscommunications.

The darker side in a close relationship is mainly caused due to misunderstanding, which is a common problem in close relationships. At times people misinterpret their close ones this happens primely due to lack of communication between friends generally when busy in each other’s life and have no time for each other may eventually lead to misunderstanding. We tend to be more selfish and think only about our selves. Misunderstanding will lead to misinterpretation of positive as negative. This problem can be solved by spending time with our friends and close ones trying to communicate with them. Firstly we should understand each other very well and ready to do any help to the other. Rather than regretting later in our life for losing them in our life its better that we take a few steps towards them and try solving our differences.

Trust and mutual respect is very important in any relationship, when we start to trust our close ones the problem of misunderstanding doesn’t come into picture. It can be avoided to a greater extent. Spending time with your close ones will make the bonds of your relation to grow stronger .as the sun can make an iceberg to melt similarly closeness in a friendship can make the misunderstandings and mistrust to gradually evaporate.

At the end I would like to tell everyone that I took few years to realize how important friendship in our life and value associated with it, I used to regret about it but not anymore because I realized that our close ones remain in our heart and they are never lost ever since I have started to believe that “even the lost find their way home when you leave the light on”. So if you have any friend of yours with whom you’ve fought for some silly reason or have lost touch due to your busy schedules, then its time to give them a call or meet up. Friends are always friends…Every friendship goes through its good and bad phases at some point of time, but we should always remember that we can make a difference by not giving a chance for such misunderstandings and mistrust. It depends only upon us to bridge the gap with our close ones.

Comments (16)

On November 21, 2009 at 10:32 PM , Pratiba Bhat said...

Yahoo.... :D :D Yaavagalu heege.. nande comment first !!!!! :P :P

Perfect one... All is arranged very well... :D :D :D Every relation should start with a friendship :D Which as you said should be like a mix of milk and water... I liked this quote a lot... :D

Thank you for writing this article :D :D :D

On November 23, 2009 at 6:30 PM , ಸಾಗರದಾಚೆಯ ಇಂಚರ said...

Wonderful article, Nicely written
Keep it up

On November 24, 2009 at 3:40 AM , pdkamath said...

Hi Priyanka, very meaningful article and at the end you made me to remember the famous Hindi film SHOLAY. All the best

On November 29, 2009 at 2:14 AM , ಜಲನಯನ said...

Priyanka the post deals something every one knows but doesnt realise, to realise you should go through the acid test in Friendship....yes, faith and belief are the two attributes that contribute to good friendship...you have amply quoted some good quotes...Hamsa Ksheera Nyaya is the way of analysis you were mentioning about.......Good thoughts ..ending in a good article. CONGRATS

On November 30, 2009 at 11:51 PM , ಕನಸು said...

yours article on FRIENDSHIP is good one
be keep same article ahed
with best wishes

On December 1, 2009 at 3:57 AM , Ratz the genius said...

Hey that was a wonderful article ra.... Super :)...

On December 1, 2009 at 6:25 AM , ದಿಲೀಪ್ ಹೆಗಡೆ said...

Hi Priyanka..

Fantastic.. Even I wonder "why people split up after being so close..??" May be.. just may be because of their expectations out of each relationship in their life... and one day or the other they will realise for sure that what they have lost by loosing a good friend..
I liked the way you brought in Kabeer and buddha.. thanks for a good article...

keep the good job going.. all the best.. :)

On December 3, 2009 at 9:42 PM , world health said...

nice blog.. exchange link ok

On December 23, 2009 at 4:04 PM , Priyanka Prabhu said...

Thanks a Lot everyone...........

On December 28, 2009 at 1:32 AM , ಗೌತಮ್ ಹೆಗಡೆ said...


On January 15, 2010 at 2:12 PM , ಸೀತಾರಾಮ. ಕೆ. said...

TRUST/FAITH/BELIEF is the main foundation of any relation including friendship to become strong.
SACRIFICE is the philosophy of any relation to become joyful.
EGO should bow to the relations- should be the main adoption in relation.

On March 28, 2010 at 4:56 PM , Dobin Fernandes said...

A friendship always begins with ‘no sorry no thank you’- Very true...good writing...

On May 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM , Ganesh said...

hi priyanka,,,,
“Friendship should always be like milk and water, even when we try to mix them together they remain inseparable…..that’s a stronger bond between them”.
very nice..true lines..

On June 14, 2011 at 11:04 AM , seetha said...

hi priyanka u r awesome with u r articles as u describes friendship , i mean friendship as THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FRIENDS SHOULD BE LIKE FISH AND WATER BUT NOT LIKE A FISH AND FISHERMAN"
while it is cant buy for money in the world. some lines for friends and friendship

You meet people who forget you. You
forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't
forget. Those are your 'friends.'”

“A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.”

friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or
far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there
and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart.”

“true friendship isn't about being there when it's convenient; it's about being there when it's not.”

“Best friends are the ones who can be the farthest away but there the fastest when you call.”

Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.”
these lines i follows
thanking u
seetha raghavendra

On September 2, 2011 at 11:47 AM , Priyanka Prabhu said...

Thanks a lot @Seetha Raghavendra

On October 15, 2011 at 10:45 PM , koç burcu said...

hello nice blog


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